I’ve been struggling lately. Since the summer of this year I’ve slowly been creeping upon a burn-out, finally relaxing a bit with an internal role change. In parallel, my Love relationship is struggling. My partner is not getting out of the relationship what she would like to.
What have I learned?
1. I have a personal mission!
I live for 4 fundamental values:
- Presence
- Love
- Cooperation
- Wisdom
Although my values feel obvious to me, I found they are actually unique. Therefore, by simply living my own core values, I am already a leading and powerful force in society. And additionally, I am the person I want to be.
I can incorporate these daily by following my mission statement:
I am Bram Delisse – and every day, I follow my 4 core values:
Presence: I live in the moment. I am not distracted. I live a non-dual life, part of the whole.
Love: I smile. I feel. I connect with others through conversation and feeling. I enjoy.
Cooperation: I look for win-wins. I try to build something bigger together.
Wisdom: I seek the truth. I take the whole into account, and do what should be done.
2. My Framework for Life is getting solid
I, am three things:
- body
- mind
- love
I, can do external work
- Foundational work is required for survival
- Ambition work may be done for impact
When doing work, it is critical one lets go of the Ego. If not, the performed work will feed the Ego – which is a bottomless well – and therefore value is extracted from the world into heat. When doing work without Ego, one can help align our society of Life.
When doing work, it is critical to set boundaries. If not, the performed work will extract from the I (body, mind, love), which makes the I instable. External work needs boundaries to:
- preserve the body’s health
- preserve the mind’s sanity
- preserve love’s fertility
3. What’s next?
Keep going strong at my career, with boundaries for the I. There are few places I can execute my ambition work combined with my fundamental values more pure then at Dembrane. Let’s make the most out of this I can do in a sustainable way.
The boundaries is an art I need to learn. It will come less through research, and more through practice. What might help is ensuring the core things for the I get the required energy:
- Body: Sleep 7-9h a night; Don’t smoke weed or drink alcohol to often; Exercise 3 times a week; Stretch; Don’t scratch my skin; Go to professionals for care (hairdresser, physiotherapist) (the holy trinity)
- Mind: Meditate regularly; Rest: have periods of not having to do anything; Look for inspiration: read or listen (Zen)
- Love: Spend time with people and nature with full attention and no goal.
Happy with these learnings 🙂
I believe I’m on my right path. But poh is it heavy sometimes.