Tag: Personal Growth

  • My final story of the Startup Talents program

    Our final training day was about story telling, and I was tasked to write a story capturing my Startup Talents journey. To get started, I looked back at my notes from February of 2025 – what was it then that I wanted to learn? My notes were clear: I was focused on understanding leadership. A quote from my notebook: “I want to figure out what type of leader I want to be.”

    Leadership was the central thread of my Startup Talents journey. There where many emotional, inspiring, and fun moments over the year – to many to list here in this story. Some where simple and to the point – as when Xander and I figured out over dinner that “soms ik gewoon mijn bek moet houden.” It doesn’t have to be complex I guess. But there is one story that I find quite telling for my grown understanding of leadership – and I would like to share this story with you.

    During the ‘Find Your North Star’ day on October 15th, we had an exercise where we had to find our values out of a list of 200. Following the exercise I crossed out many values, grouped a bunch, until I ended with my four core values: Presence, Love, Collaboration, and Wisdom. “Tsja..” – I thought – “that doesn’t say a lot – those are the core values of Life, so of course I end up with these.” But when we shared our values with the group, I was surprised to find out that others had completely different values! After finding this out, I wrote the following in a journal:

    Although my values feel obvious to me, I found they are actually unique. Therefore, by simply living my own core values, I am already a leading and powerful force in society. And additionally, I am the person I want to be.

    I love this! It means that I can simply do what feels obvious to me, and positive change will follow.

    One of the additional things I got to better understand through this program is how I can be quite wordy. Therefore, let me concisely summarize my learnings on how to be a great leader:

    • Focus on being your best self.
    • Trust the process.
    • Good things will follow.

    Some other learnings

    • I am quite serious by default. It is almost guaranteed to improve the process if I crack a joke every now and then.
    • I am wordy, I want to explain everything. It is almost guaranteed to improve the process if I try to say less things with less words.
    • By default, I attend to the group. It is almost guaranteed to improve the process if I perpetually start action by attending from within.
    • My personal mission statement:
      • I am Bram Delisse – and every day, I follow my 4 core values:
      • Presence: I live in the moment. I am not distracted. I live a non-dual life, part of the whole.
  • A rough period, and its learnings

    I’ve been struggling lately. Since the summer of this year I’ve slowly been creeping upon a burn-out, finally relaxing a bit with an internal role change. In parallel, my Love relationship is struggling. My partner is not getting out of the relationship what she would like to.

    What have I learned?

    1. I have a personal mission!


    I live for 4 fundamental values:

    • Presence

    Although my values feel obvious to me, I found they are actually unique. Therefore, by simply living my own core values, I am already a leading and powerful force in society. And additionally, I am the person I want to be.


    I can incorporate these daily by following my mission statement:


    I am Bram Delisse – and every day, I follow my 4 core values:

    Presence: I live in the moment. I am not distracted. I live a non-dual life, part of the whole.


    2. My Framework for Life is getting solid


    I, am three things:

    • mind

    I, can do external work

    • Foundational work is required for survival
    • Ambition work may be done for impact

    When doing work, it is critical one lets go of the Ego. If not, the performed work will feed the Ego – which is a bottomless well – and therefore value is extracted from the world into heat. When doing work without Ego, one can help align our society of Life.

    When doing work, it is critical to set boundaries. If not, the performed work will extract from the I (body, mind, love), which makes the I instable. External work needs boundaries to:

    • preserve the mind’s sanity

    3. What’s next?


    Keep going strong at my career, with boundaries for the I. There are few places I can execute my ambition work combined with my fundamental values more pure then at Dembrane. Let’s make the most out of this I can do in a sustainable way.

    The boundaries is an art I need to learn. It will come less through research, and more through practice. What might help is ensuring the core things for the I get the required energy:

    • Mind: Meditate regularly; Rest: have periods of not having to do anything; Look for inspiration: read or listen (Zen)

    Happy with these learnings 🙂
    I believe I’m on my right path. But poh is it heavy sometimes.